We’ve all had days where not only the skies are gray but we ourselves are feeling a bit gray as well. We’ve had a couple of those days last weeks and I’ve learned that it’s important to let yourself feel whatever you're feeling and to let down your guard from time to time, as long as you don’t camp out in that place for days!
It can be really tiring pretending that everything is OK and filled with rainbows when it's not. Let’s be real, rainbows don’t always come out on cloudy days. And it’s no different with us. We can’t access the joy of life and what it has to offer without working through our pain and sorrow first. Unresolved feelings, stress and pain will go unresolved as long as we pretend it doesn’t exist and sweep it under our imaginary carpet, which at first seems to be able to cover up every undesired thought and feeling. We probably all know that this “savior” of a carpet is no larger than a small handkerchief and the things we try to sweep under will always spill out in one way or another. It’s important to take time to let the feelings emerge, embrace them and let them pass. In my experience, it’s been invaluable to have a person that you can lean on and talk to when your not feeling that great and my wife has done a fabulous job at always being there for me! She’s my rock!
"When we numb the dark, we numb the light" - Brene Brown.
There is no such thing as selective emotional numbing. If you numb the pain, you will also numb joy.
Last Sunday we were having the typical fall weather, and you guessed it, it was really gray! But what a beautiful day. It’s good to treat yourself on these days and even better, to enjoy the rewards of your process. And that's exactly what we did. This time I went with my beautiful wife to down town Reykjavik, where we treated ourselves with quality time together with a hot cup of cinnamon latte, strolling through our favorite parts of town.